Submission (Part 3)

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Saviour of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (Eph. 5:22-24)

As a reminder, when we left each other last time, I was on my bed on the afternoon of Christmas Day 2018 suffering heart palpitations and determining that I was not going to Accident & Emergency as I had on two previous occasions and all tests had come up negative. I needed to get to the bottom of why this was happening again this third time. I was earnestly binding and loosing, declaring every Scripture of promise about healing and health, and waging warfare in the spirit in my prayer language. By this time my husband, who I had left behind with my children to come home and “rest”, had called and decided he was coming to be with me.  So, we were battling together until he fell asleep :). The palpitations continued unabated and I felt I should stop the warfare and listen to my Father God.  As I became still, the Holy Spirit reminded me of the first attack. I shared in Part 2 the revelation from the Lord of the door I had opened to the enemy’s attack by failing to walk in an attitude of submission to my own husband as instructed in several Scriptures (Ephesians 5:22-24, 33; Colossians 3:18; 1 Peter 3:1, 5-6).  This first attack took place on New Year’s Day 2017.

As I continued to be silent in God’s presence with my palpitations still continuing, a second memory was given by the Holy Spirit of a Word I received from the Lord in July 2017. I had just completed my 2-year consultancy in the Bahamas and returned to Jamaica. The Youth Ministry at my church was in charge of the worship service for Father’s Day and the theme was “Man Up”. A charge was given to our men to be the men God has called them to be and not to back down from their responsibilities. The following day, the Lord gave me a Word for the women in our church and I believe for women in general. I had recorded the Word in my journal and repeat it here word for word.

“I believe in the current season of Covenant City’s focus on building up men, there is a message the Lord has laid upon my heart regarding how women’s treatment and relationship with the men in their lives (husbands, sons, grandsons, nephews, sons-in-law, step sons, significant other, male co-workers [especially the younger ones], church leaders, etc.) has had a negative impact on how the men see themselves. The very criticism that women have been laid against their men has become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The thing you fear the most has come upon you.

Many of us are our own worst enemies. Women have believed the world’s lies regarding the Women’s Liberation Movement. That we have been kept in bondage. Now we go to the other extreme. We don’t realize that we are shooting ourselves in the foot. There is a divine order that God has established.

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. (1 Cor. 11:3)

We tear down our men because of how we may have been treated by men we looked up to. We feel mistreated, unloved, hurt, abused and we lash out (knowingly & unconsciously) against the men around us to belittle them so we can feel a sense of self-esteem, not realizing that this is playing into the enemy’s hands. Our role as women is intercession. Men are accountable to God. It is not a woman’s role to try and change a man. The man is God’s representative and God will have to change him. It is our responsibility as women not to criticize or to nag but to be a helper. How do we help? We affirm. Build up his self-confidence, self-respect through affirmation. Help him to bring his dreams to fulfillment. Partner with him. Many times we undermine his authority, especially in the home, because many times as the nurturers God has wired us to be we are not understanding nor are we in agreement with the tough stance that we see our men taking with our children. Guilty as accused! (my own confession before God).  Take it to the Lord!! Yes, sometimes the approach is wrong but many times it is right but not the way we would have handled it because we are not wired to discipline but to nurture. Submission is God’s instruction. Not a suggestion or a recommendation but an instruction! When not obeyed then we are in sin. We cannot choose some things out of the Scriptures and not others. Trust that God knows best. I know this has been an area of struggle for me personally. The Lord reminds us not to be conformed to this world but to be transformed by the renewing of our minds that we may prove what is that good, acceptable and perfect will of God (Romans 12:2). Truly, as far as the east is from the west so far are God’s thoughts higher than our thoughts and His ways higher than our ways.”

As God would have it, at the end of July I was approached by the leader of our church’s Women’s Ministry to share a message at the meeting to be held in August 2017. Of course, I saw this as a door of opportunity the Lord had opened for me to share this Word. I entitled the message “Man Up Woman Up” and the Lord gave me a really cool message that was very well received. You can click on the link if you want to read the full message click here.

How many of you know that when you deliver a message from the Lord you will always be put to the test? I certainly was and failed miserably on several occasions following the delivery of this message. Then came the second attack of heart palpitations right in church on a Sunday morning. I’ll share about this next time as our journey toward understanding Father God’s heart regarding submission continues.


Submission (Part 2)

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Saviour of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (Eph. 5:22-24)

A few of life’s curve balls delayed my continuation of this series. Apologies to those who were waiting in anticipation for Part 2. The delays may actually be another indication of how important this teaching is to Father God. It has been such a struggle, as one distraction and one challenge has followed the other over the past few weeks. But God is my deliverer and I give Him all the glory!!

My full realization of just how seriously Father God views this matter of wives submitting to their own husbands came on Christmas Day 2018. As a family, we had taken the decision to celebrate this Christmas differently. Rather than giving gifts to each other we used the money we would have spent to instead invest in bringing a gift of a meal and Jesus’ love to those less fortunate. I was the ‘head cook and bottle washer’ in this venture even though the idea had not been mine in the first place. Without doubt, by the afternoon of Christmas Day, I was exhausted but feeling very fulfilled. It had been a productive and fruitful 2 days of sacrifice. As my family gathered together to recount our experience of the whole venture and to spend some quality time together, I felt a not unfamiliar racing of my heart. I had suffered two such episodes in the past and been rushed to Accident and Emergency both times, once in Miami and once here in Jamaica. Not wishing to raise too much alarm, I decided to tell everyone (except my husband) I needed to go home and rest. I whispered and told my husband what was happening but asked him not to tell the others. Upon reaching home, I lay down and the palpitations continued. I became vexed in the spirit and decided that I was not going to allow the enemy to interrupt another holiday celebration with this ‘sickness’. My mind flashed back to two years before. We had decided for a second year in a row to all gather as a family to celebrate Christmas with my eldest son and his family in Miami and it had been a blast…………..until heart palpitations and increasingly intense chest pain, that I could no longer ignore, caused me to raise an alarm and everyone ended up in the A&E at Jackson North Medical Centre. Wonderful way to bring in New Year 2017!! For 2 days, they ran all of the required tests and all came up negative. I was doing a consultancy in the Bahamas at the time but came back to Jamaica in January to do follow up testing with one of our leading cardiologists and again all tests proved negative. In other words, there was no indication of what the underlying cause was. I suffered from no chronic illnesses. The only thing I know I was guilty of was not getting sufficient rest.

After this first episode, I prayed and asked Father God to help me understand what was happening. I knew that as a Christian there is nothing that happens to me by chance and I wanted to know what underlying issue was playing out here. I definitely wanted to know if I had unknowingly opened a door that had given the enemy legal authority to attack my health in this way. I recalled how Father God had used my heart to get my attention in the past. When I first recognized that He had placed a prophetic call on my life but I was not always sure whether I was to speak or remain silent, He would always allow the Holy Spirit to manifest urgency for the Word to go forth my causing my heart to beat so strongly that I could actually look down and see my chest moving up and down. In the early days of my prophetic ministry that was His sign of assurance to me that the Word I had received was in fact from Him. He knew I was not going to open my mouth until I had that full assurance. As I matured, He no longer had to give me this sign. I reflected on this and asked Father God if the abnormal heart rhythm was an indication that the condition of my heart was not pleasing to Him. Was the ‘out of sync’ heart beat His way of sending me the message that I was ‘out of sync’ with His will? The Holy Spirit brought to mind Proverbs 4:23, which tells us to diligently guard our hearts for all of life’s issues flow from it.  I won’t go into all the gory details but Father God showed me that I had indeed not acted in accordance with His will. I was guilty of undermining my husband’s authority. I had colluded with my children to avoid having one of those lengthy family meetings their father is renowned to have anytime we are all together in one location. We manoeuvred so much to ensure a short meeting that we unintentionally ended up with no family meeting at all. Truth be told, this was not the first time nor the second that Father God had spoken to me about the need to deal with submission issues. Although I thought I had repented, I really hadn’t or else I wouldn’t have slipped back so easily into repeating the cycle again and again.  The scriptures speak about a broken spirit and a broken and contrite heart being the sacrifices that God will not despise (Psa. 51;17). I don’t believe I was ever truly at this point concerning the submission issue in the past and here I was again in 2017. Having come face to face with my own mortality, I hastily admitted and took responsibility for my sin but, in retrospect, even in 2017, I still had not come to that place of godly sorrow that leads to true repentance as outlined by Paul in 2 Corinthians 7:9-11.

Now I rejoice, not that you were made sorry, but that your sorrow led to repentance. For you were made sorry in a godly manner, that you might suffer loss from us in nothing. For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death. For observe this very thing, that you sorrowed in a godly manner: What diligence it produced in you, what clearing of yourselves, what indignation, what fear, what vehement desire, what zeal, what vindication! In all things you proved yourselves to be clear in this matter.

It was only now, as I lay on the bed on the afternoon of Christmas Day 2018, that I was to really come into a full appreciation of God’s heart concerning this matter of submission. Join me next time as I share how God unfolded His own heart to me and directed me to share all that I experienced with other women.



Submission (Part 1)

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Saviour of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (Eph. 5:22-24)

As a direct follow-on from the just completed series where we looked at the many faces of pride, Father God has placed an urgency in my spirit regarding the matter of the submission of wives to husbands. And here, I am giving specific focus to Christian wives, those who were wives and those who have the desire to become wives. Ladies, we have a problem with this matter of submission to our husbands. And any of you who are saying right now “But I don’t have this problem” need to repent right now. You may not realize you have a problem here because of the subtle ways in which it operates. Others of you may be saying “ouch, a why she gone dere so!?” I confess, I have struggled with this particular submission issue in my own life but what took me by surprise is how strongly and seriously Father God views this matter as evidenced by my own testimony that I will  be sharing throughout this series.

Much of our problem in this area comes from allowing the world’s perspective on this matter to take precedence over Father God’s instruction as laid out in the Ephesians capstone scripture above. The women’s liberation movement and the mistaken belief that submission means to be inferior is another one of Satan’s ploys to destroy the family and bring mayhem to the spiritual order and authority God ordained for the health of family life that can only be achieved when lived in accordance with His governance pattern.  And many, if not all of us, have fallen into the enemy’s trap.

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. (Rom. 12:2)

It is very difficult not to allow the world to shape our thinking but this is the very reason Father God warns us against it in His Word. We are bombarded by the world’s thinking every day and if we do not counter this by allowing God’s transformative Word to change our thought patterns on a daily basis we are not going to be vessels of honour fit for the Father’s use.

You adulteresses [disloyal sinners-flirting with the world and breaking our vow to God]! Do you not know that being the world’s friend [that is, loving the things of the world] is being God’s enemy? So whoever chooses to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. Or do you think that the Scripture says to no purpose that the [human] spirit which He has made to dwell in us lusts with envy? But He gives more and more grace [through the power of the Holy Spirit to defy sin and live an obedient life that reflects both our faith and our gratitude for our salvation]. Therefore, it says, “God is opposed to the proud and haughty, but [continually] gives [the gift of] grace to the humble [who turn away from self-righteousness].” So submit to [the authority of] God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him] and he will flee from you. Come close to God [with a contrite heart] and He will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; and purify your [unfaithful] hearts, you double-minded [people]. Be miserable and grieve and weep [over your sin]. Let your [foolish] laughter be turned to mourning and your [reckless] joy to gloom. Humble yourselves [with an attitude of repentance and insignificance] in the presence of the Lord, and He will exalt you [He will lift you up, He will give you purpose]. (James 4:4-10, AMP)

I purposely chose not to just give James 4:4 regarding love of the world being enmity with God because I believe we need to recognize and place conformity with the world’s thinking into the context that God places it. It is without contradiction a matter of pride!! The world thinks it knows more than God and can do things better than God. The unfortunate thing is that many Christians upon surrendering their lives to Jesus Christ do not fully surrender their mindsets and continue to operate according to the world’s mandate. One of the reasons for this is that many Christians have either not received the baptism in the Holy Spirit that gives the dunamis power required to overcome the carnal nature that resides within us or have not partnered sufficiently with the Holy Spirit in allowing Him to bring revelation and transformation in their lives through the Word of God.

The most powerful teacher is the one who has experienced the lesson first hand and learned wisdom straight from God in the process. Father God has shown me His heart concerning this issue of submission of wives to husbands. He will allow us to get away with it for a season but when He is ready for you to come into a higher level of service for Him He will not allow you to get away with it any longer. He will bring it right up in your face and you either have to deal with it or miss out on maximizing the fulfillment of the purpose He has destined for you. Ultimately, the choice is yours! The Lord said to me, “We can go no further until this issue is dealt with. The spiritual authority that you are going to need in the next season of your walk with Me requires that you are fully submitted in every area of your life and I am bringing to your attention the need to submit to your own husband.” He first “brought my attention” to this sin (because that is what it is) on New Year’s Day 2016 and most recently again on Christmas Day 2018. That’s how long it has taken me to learn how important this matter is to Him and how adamant He is not to allow it to rear its ugly head in my life. He is intent that there should be ‘nothing lacking and nothing missing’ as I step into a higher level of ministry on His behalf. I know that as it is with me so it will be with any of you Christian wives and to-be wives who want to be fully used of God.

Christian sisters, I know that this topic has already raised up some fiery emotions within you and most likely I am not your most favourite person at this time. It matters not, I press through undaunted. Having laid the framework for this series, I invite you to travel with me the next few weeks as I share my own testimony, a most humbling experience for me but Father God directs and I submit in obedience. My prayer is that at the end of it all you, like me, will come to the recognition that we have no choice but to obey and fall in line with Father God’s heart to become women of virtue who will be vessels of honour fit for the Father’s use.



The Many Faces of Pride (Part 8)

Today, is the final in our current series. Just to recap what we covered in the seven parts so far:

  • Part 1:         The Importance of Pride
  • Part 2:          The Nature of Pride
  • Part 3:          The Consequences of Pride
  • Parts 4 – 7:   Unveiling the 13 Faces of Pride

In this final part of our series, I will be taking us through some strategies to overcome pride. At the outset, I need to say that overcoming pride is not a one-time event. Pride is so subtle that we always have to be on constant guard against it and nip it in the bud as soon as we see any slight indication that it might be present. In essence, overcoming pride is a lifelong process. Satan never gives up trying to trip us up in this area so we must be constantly discerning and always asking the Holy Spirit to reveal if we have become a casualty to its subtle grasp.

1. Be vigilant and sober. We need to be on constant watch because pride has a way of creeping up on us. You cannot afford to let down your guard for one moment. At the end of each day conduct an assessment of your actions for that day.

Be sober, be vigilant: because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world. (1 Pet. 5:8-9)

2. Pay attention to your thoughts. Remember that pride has to do with how you think about yourself relative to others and to God. Everything begins in our thoughts. Our thoughts influence our feelings, which in turn influences our behaviour.

Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, (2 Cor. 10:5)

Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: but made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above very name: (Phil. 2:5-9)

3. Assess your motives. The scriptures tell us how important our motives are to God and that unless love is the motive for our actions our motives are not right.

The heart is deceitful above all things And it is extremely sick; Who can understand it fully and know its secret motives? (Jer. 17:9, AMP)

Every man’s way is right in his own eyes, But the LORD weighs and examines the hearts [of people and their motives]. (Prov. 21:2, AMP)

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not love, it profits me nothing. (1 Cor. 13:1-3)

Take heed that you do not do your charitable deeds before men, to be seen by them. Otherwise you have no reward from your Father in heaven. Therefore, when you do a charitable deed, do not sound a trumpet before you as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory from men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward. But when you da a charitable deed, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, that your charitable deed may be in secret; and your Father who sees in secret will Himself reward you openly. (Matt. 6:1-4)

4. Get an accountability partner. This should be someone to whom you give authority to call you out when they see prideful actions and words being displayed. In effect, you are giving them spiritual oversight. This is particularly useful, because as we have pointed out before, pride is very deceptive and many times we cannot recognize when it is at work in our lives.

Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you all be tempted. (Gal. 6:1)

5. Have a changed mindset about receiving. See receiving as allowing the giver to be blessed. You need to recognize when you refuse another’s desire to help that you are robbing them of their blessing. Take the focus of yourself and shift it to the fact that you are helping the other person by receiving from them. It is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts. 20:35b)

And be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. (Rom. 12:2)

“Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with what measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.” (Lk. 6:38)

6. Constantly remind yourself. Recall from the scriptures how strongly God feels about pride and what are the consequences of pride. You can remind yourself by reviewing Parts 1 – 3. Do not minimize pride. Remember it is sin and it WILL separate you from God.

That He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, (Eph. 5:26)

7. Apply the 9 Rs. Remember I said overcoming pride is a lifetime process. When you see evidence of it in your life then apply the 9 Rs.

  • Recognize
  • Responsibility (acknowledge that you and no one else, not even Satan, is at fault for what you have allowed to enter in)
  • Repent (Acts 8:22)
  • Receive forgiveness (1 John 1:9)
  • Renounce (verbally declare that you are no longer in agreement with pride and it has no authority over you; rather you are taking authority over it.) (Luke 10:19; Matt. 18:18)
  • Replace (trade lies from the enemy and the world for the truth of God’s Word; remind yourself that everything you have and everything you have become is because of God. It is not your doing. (Rom. 12:2; Phil. 2:13; Deut. 8:18)
  • Resist (the enemy will try to make a comeback, be ready and on guard for him) (James 4:7)
  • Rejoice (2 Cor. 2:14)
  • Refocus (Phil. 3:14)

Let us fight a good warfare and having done all to stand!!


The Many Faces of Pride (Part 7)

In today’s blog, I unveil the last 4 of the 13 faces of pride. In parts 4 – 6 of the series we uncovered arrogance and haughtiness, boastfulness, inability to rejoice in the success of others, the fear of men’s faces, rebellion, the critical spirit, unwillingness to admit the need for help, the spirit of entitlement, and perfectionism.

10. Shame. At the root of shame is pride. Shame causes us to keep things hidden for which we need healing. Why do we keep them hidden? We do not want others to know that we did or did not do something because our image will be tarnished in their eyes. This is pride at work. Satan uses shame to keep us in bondage by playing on our fear of what others will think. The spirit of pride in us therefore gives Satan power to keep us from receiving the healing God desires for us.

 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that you may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. (Jas. 5:16)

It becomes evident from this verse that if we continue to allow shame to have power over us we will continue to be wounded soldiers who cannot be used of God because Satan will have legal authority to accuse us. We lose the spiritual authority and power required for us to be victorious in this spiritual warfare to which we have been called as sons of the Living God. Like Jesus, let us be able to say that Satan will find nothing in us with which to exert his power.

I will not speak with you much longer, for the ruler of the world (Satan) is coming. And he has no claim on Me [no power over Me nor anything that he can use against Me]; (John 14:30, AMP)

11. Unforgiving spirit. Many times, people are unwilling to forgive because they feel that others are not deserving of their forgiveness. Forgiving another is tantamount to giving up power over that person. You can no longer speak about the bad thing the person did to you or trash their reputation to others. Pride always wants to deceive you into believing that you are better than others. Therefore, no one is ever worthy enough to receive your forgiveness. The thought going through the prideful mind is, “How dare they do this to me, do they know who I am?”

The opposite is also true. Persons with a spirit of pride also feel no need to seek forgiveness since pride deceives persons into believing that they are never to blame. The prideful person never takes responsibility when things go wrong but is more than willing to accept the praise when things go right.  You will recall early on in the series I pointed to the fact that pride was man’s first sin. Satan appealed to Eve’s pride and caused her to sin (Genesis 3:5). We also see pride’s manifestation a little later in the same chapter in the form of the blame game.

And He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat? Then the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.” And the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” (Gen. 3:11-13)

12. Unteachable spirit. When a spirit of pride is at work in your life you do not take correction well. This results in lack of spiritual growth and maturity.  Prideful persons believe that they know it all or do not want to admit when they don’t know. Either way, they become stagnant. It is not only that they do not want others to teach them, pride also prevents them allowing the Holy Spirit to guide them because, of course, they know where they are going. This goes hand in hand with a face of pride we discussed earlier, unwillingness to submit to authority.  This aspect of pride, like all of the others, causes us to walk in disobedience to God’s Word.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. (Prov. 3:5-6)

Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; Teach a just man, and he will increase in learning. (Prov. 9:8-9)

But the Helper, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance all things that I have said to you. (John 14:26)

Whoever loves instruction loves knowledge, But he who hates correction is stupid. (Prov. 12:1)

Poverty and shame will come to him who disdains correction, But he who regards a rebuke will be honored. (Prov. 13:18)

13. Judgmental spirit. Pride causes us to easily think the worst of others and to speak the worst of others even without knowing all the facts. The worse others are the better we feel about ourselves. The prideful person is quick to jump into discussions that seek to malign other peoples’ character and will many times steer the conversation in such a way as to show how much better he/she is than that person. In fact, many times you will hear them saying, “Who me, I could never do anything like that.” On the other hand, a spirit of humility says, “But for the grace of God, there go I”.

Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. (Matt. 7:1-5)

You may have realized from our discussion that many of these faces of pride actually overlap and feed off each other. It’s like a web of deceit and lies that is skillfully orchestrated by the enemy to keep you from being of use to God because it makes you walk in your own power rather than in the power of the Holy Spirit. Satan knows, more than anyone else, the power of a believer who is filled with and is being led by the Holy Spirit. Consequently, he will do everything in his power to prevent this from happening.

You therefore, beloved, since you know this beforehand, beware lest you also fall from your own steadfastness, being led away with the error of the wicked; but grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To Him be the glory both now and forever. Amen. (2 Pet. 3:17-18)

Want to know how to overcome pride? Join me next week for the final blog in this series.



The Many Faces of Pride (Part 6)

There are 13 faces of pride that I want to reveal as we go through this series together. It is important for me to repeat that some of these manifestations of pride are more obvious than others. I mentioned also that this is not by chance, as Satan wants to keep pride hidden. Consequently, he allows it to masquerade as other things and many times we do not realize that pride is at the root. In Part 4, we discussed the first 3 faces of pride – arrogance and haughtiness, boastfulness, and the inability to rejoice in the success of others. Part 5 dealt with the fear of men’s faces, rebellion and the critical spirit. In today’s blog, I will unveil another 3 faces of pride.

7. Unwillingness to admit the need for help. When you find a person unable to accept help, with a tendency to always want to be the one to give help, pride is present. A prideful person wants everyone to believe that he or she is in control and all is well. A facade of “everything is fine” is always presented to the outside world. Some persons rationalize their reticence to accept help, to themselves and others, by saying they don’t want to be a bother. However, this is not in keeping with God’s plan. He put us in community and gave us all different skills, talents, abilities, giftings, experiences, and strengths so we would not be self-sufficient but have need of each other (Ephesians 4:16; 1 Corinthians 12:20-26).

Another justification given for not accepting help is that those who gave help in the past rubbed it in our face, always reminding us of the help they gave as though we are to be forever beholden to them. This is a reasonable position to take where that individual giver is concerned. I am agreed, that person needs ministry.  But then, be wise and do not go back to that person. Not because one person did it means that everyone is the same. Sometimes, too, the prideful person who does eventually accept help from another may become resentful of that person. Envy of the person’s ability to help may also rear its ugly head.

Prideful persons would rather suffer in silence than admit that they need help. Even when ministry is being offered during church service they stay glued to their seat. Sometimes, they may find someone after church to get one on one ministry. Yes, they are admitting the need for help but the fact that they couldn’t do this in public is an indication that pride is at work.

I used to struggle with accepting gifts of money from people until the Lord showed me from the scriptures that when I do not allow others to give to me I am robbing them of their blessing (Luke 6:38). I realized I was actually doing them a favour by accepting their gift. So, I thought I had conquered this aspect of pride in my life. One day, I was home alone and got locked out of my house in the washroom. You cannot imagine the struggle I went through to open my mouth and cry out for help. I felt so undignified. That’s when I discovered the stronghold of pride was very much still present. It took me completely by surprise. Do you know that to this day I don’t know how the door slammed shut on me. Maybe, just maybe, the Lord wanted me to become aware that there was more cleaning up to be done?

8. Spirit of entitlement. Pride makes us believe that we are deserving of what we have and more because of the great things we have done. We even take this approach with God. The spirit of entitlement is in operation when we get upset with God for not giving us something after we prayed morning, noon and night for it. Many times we start to tot up all the things we have done to make us deserving of getting whatever it is we have asked of the Lord. But the truth of the matter is God does not owe us anything. We never gave Him anything to put down for us. The earth is the Lord’s and the fullness thereof. So, where did it say that we have shares in this fullness? If you want to get over this entitlement spirit quickly just read how God dressed down Job good and proper for the length of 4 chapters (Job 38 – 41). I wouldn’t have wanted to be in Job’s shoes when that was happening and I don’t think you would either. Let us therefore be slow to complain and quick to give thanks. Godliness with contentment is great gain (1 Timothy 6:6). Ultimately, we need to acknowledge that Jesus Christ paid the price for our freedom and gave His own life so we could gain the gift of eternal life. Anything else we get is brawta.  We are the ones who owe God everything. Hence, Paul’s recognition of this fact in Romans 12:1.

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your REASONABLE service. (Rom. 12:1, emphasis mine)

9. Driven to achieve/perfectionism. Pride is an enigma (mysterious and difficult to understand) and its almost paradoxical (self-contradictory, absurd, inconsistent). Why do I say this? Well, I didn’t really. The Holy Spirit gave me this revelation. Low self-esteem and insecurity (which we usually consider to be the opposite of pride) actually leads us into pride.  And here again I speak from personal experience. Because of our inner feeling of inadequacy we counteract by striving to prove we are just as good as or better than others. Common consequences are perfectionism and the fear of failure. Persons with low self-esteem do not take criticism well and crave admiration. The obvious way to achieve both is to do things perfectly. Such persons pay attention to detail and will check and recheck to ensure no errors have been made. This is not a bad thing on the face of it. What is bad is not the actions themselves but the motive for the actions. This is why the scriptures tell us that God is not interested in the outward appearance but looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7). Pride, masquerading as perfectionism, perceives failure as proof of inferiority. This is a lie of the enemy. The scriptures tell us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:14) and that we are accepted in the Beloved (Ephesians 1:6).

Another indicator that pride fuelled by low self-esteem is at work, is the desire to only associate with a certain calibre of people. Acceptance by those who are ‘successful’ gives us a false sense of security that we too are ‘successful’ and that others should look up to us. We pursue all of the outward symbolisms of success in an effort to convince ourselves and others that we are someone of worth. Ultimately, when we surrender our lives to the Lord Jesus Christ we come to the recognition (or some of us do) that all of our righteousnesses are like filthy rags (Isaiah 64:6).

Join me next week for Part 7 as we complete the unveiling process and then in the following week we complete our series with Part 8 by revealing how to overcome pride.


The Many Faces of Pride (Part 5)

Happy and prosperous 2019 to all Transformation Today followers!! My prayer is that you will grow from strength to strength and from faith to faith in the purposes of God for your life to the glory and honour of God the Father through Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour.

In my last blog, I started to take us through the many faces of pride, noting that some are more obvious than others. This is not by chance, as Satan wants to keep pride hidden, so it masquerades as other things and many times we do not realize that pride is at the root. We already discussed the first 3 faces of pride – arrogance and haughtiness, boastfulness, and the inability to rejoice in the success of others.

4. The fear of men’s faces.  People who are oppressed by this lying spirit want to be accepted at any cost and will always seek to be agreeable even when deep down they do not agree. For example, they will be in a group that is discussing a matter that is blatantly in error with regards to the Word of God but will remain silent rather than correct the error. Another manifestation of this spirit is timidity to step out to do things that require you to be in the public eye. You continually shrink back when asked to do anything like public speaking or if you do bolster up the courage to do so you are constantly thinking about what others may be thinking about you. Usually you become so self-conscious that you end up making a complete mess of what you were asked to do and then convince yourself that you shouldn’t have done it in the first place and you will never do it again. Many persons label this as shyness, fearfulness and timidity and they are not incorrect in doing so. However, at the root is the desire to guard one’s image and reputation. At the root is pride. It usually manifests when there is a risk of failure, public humiliation or ridicule e.g., public speaking, public ministry, praying in public, or expressing a perspective that is in opposition to the popular view. In essence, Satan uses this spirit to silence Christians and hinder fulfillment of God’s purpose in the life of a believer. This face of pride causes us to place greater importance on our reputation and image than on obeying God’s prompting to step out and do what He has called us to do or on standing up for what is right when it is going to make us unpopular. I had to overcome this oppressive spirit in my own life and I know that many Christians struggle with this stronghold, which has contributed significantly to the impotence that is evident throughout the Body of Christ. The prophet Jeremiah was warned by God:

“Therefore prepare yourself and arise, And speak to them all that I command you. Do not be dismayed before their faces, Lest I dismay you before them.” (Jer. 1:17)

The fear of men’s faces goes hand in hand with the pride of life, which can be defined as anything that is “of the world”, meaning anything that leads to arrogance, ostentation, pride in self, presumption, and boasting. The pride of life comes from a love of the world and “if anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” (1 John 2:15)

“For all that is in the world – the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life – is not of the Father but is of the world.” (1 John 2:16)

5. Rebellion. This speaks to the inability to submit to authority. Wanting to be in control. It takes many forms but ultimately our inability to submit to authority here on planet earth leads us to be unable or unwilling to submit to or surrender to God’s authority and will for our lives. It is in our carnal nature to want to be in control, to want to do things the way we want, how we want, and when we want. Hence, the continual struggle of wives to submit to husbands; church members to submit to church leadership; employees to submit to employers; citizens to submit to government leaders and the laws of the land e.g. taxes, traffic regulations; children to submit to parents and teachers. Lack of submission is rebellion and seeks to circumvent authority. This is the model of the Jezebel spirit as epitomized by the scriptural account of King Ahab and his wife Jezebel (see 1 Kings 21). The rebellious spirit comes with manipulation, scheming and deception all with the aim of getting one’s way, no matter what.  Recall our discussion of Satan’s fall from heaven due to his rebellious spirit towards God’s authority. Pride will always want to tell you, “you know best and you don’t have to listen to what others are saying.” How serious does God view pride manifested as rebellion?

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge, I also will reject you from being priest for Me; Because you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your children. (Hosea 4:6)

“For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft. And stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of the Lord, He also has rejected you from being king.” (1 Sam. 15:23)

The second scripture was God’s message to King Saul through the prophet Samuel when he failed to carry out God’s instruction to the letter. Saul felt he knew better than God and paid a heavy price for his pride. Contrast this with David who was anointed to be King but recognized that Saul still occupied that position of authority. Consequently, despite the fact that Saul was unjustly seeking to kill David, when David had the opportunity to kill King Saul, twice he chose not to because he knew how seriously God viewed submission to authority (1 Samuel 24 and 26). I believe this is one of the key things that made David a “man after God’s own heart”; even though he committed grievous sins he was humble in spirit and repented quickly.

6. Critical spirit. As we have already noted, the prideful person wants to be in control and when they cannot be in control or in leadership there is the tendency to criticize and undermine authority at every opportunity. There may also be a competitive spirit at work rather than a spirit of cooperation. The aim is to highlight the mistakes or weaknesses of those in authority and where these may not be sufficiently present they set traps and snares surreptitiously to cause the one in authority to appear to be unfit to lead. The critical spirit always seeks to ridicule and to put down anyone in authority or anyone who they perceive that others deem to be more important or influential than they are. If they are not good enough to lead then no one else is. They will foment dissensions and strife to topple the established authority.

He who is of a proud heart stirs up strife, But he who trusts in the Lord will be prospered. (Prov. 28:25)

he is proud, knowing nothing, but is obsessed with disputes and arguments over words, from which come envy, strife, reviling, evil suspicions, useless wranglings of men of corrupt minds and destitute of the truth, who suppose that godliness is a means of gain. From such withdraw yourself.  (1 Tim. 6:4-5)

We will continue this intriguing and illuminating journey to unmask pride in Part 6.


The Many Faces of Pride (Part 4)

Well, I took a break from our weekly blog to celebrate Christmas with my precious family. It was truly an awesome time as we experienced together the true Spirit of Christmas!!

Just to recap what we have covered so far in our current series. We looked at God’s heart concerning pride in Part 1, scriptural insights about the nature of pride in Part 2, and the consequences of pride in Part 3. Today, we begin looking at the many ways in which pride can be manifested in our lives.

Pride is particularly challenging to target, and therefore to dislodge, because it masquerades as other things so we do not easily identify it for what it is ……. pride. It is very subtle and very deceptive in nature. In this way, Satan keeps us in bondage to pride, his cardinal sin, because he knows more than anyone the damage pride does to our relationship with God. Many times I believed that I had conquered pride but time and time again God allowed me to face a situation that revealed another face of pride from which I needed to be delivered. Pride was still present, camouflaged as something else. Let’s look at the many faces of pride, some are obvious and some are not.

1. Arrogance and haughtiness. This is one of the more obvious manifestations of pride. The proud look, the high look, the haughty spirit, are all mentioned in the scriptures. This face of pride is displayed when we feel we know it all and we are better than everyone around us. Many times this is fueled by being materially wealthy, having special giftings, having expertise or experience, having qualifications, having some attribute (complexion, long hair, straight hair, height, weight, shape, nationality, career, to name a few) that somehow makes us feel better and more blessed than those around us. Many times we feel that God gave us these things because we are more special than others. We forget that everything we have and everything we are is because of the grace of God. We have all been given a different journey, a different mission, or purpose for being here on earth. Our gifts and abilities, even our wealth, are given so that we can be a blessing to others not so that we can compare ourselves with others. There will always be someone who can do something better or less than we can or who has more or less than we have. God did this on purpose so we would have to depend on each other.

Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord, as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, (2 Pet. 1:2-3)

for in Him we live and move and have our being, as also some of your own poets have said, ‘For we are also His offspring.’ (Acts 17:28)

For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith. (Rom. 12:3)

2. Boastfulness. The deception of boastfulness is that many times we may not be boasting to others (although that could be happening too) but boasting inside ourselves as we compare ourselves with others and perceive ourselves to be superior to them. For example, you may have been successful in taking off weight and you want others to know (especially those who are overweight) just how much discipline and perseverance it took to achieve this milestone (implying, of course, that they lack these things or else they too would be able to take off weight). Pride in our achievements or in the achievements of those who are dear to us is not a problem in and of itself, after all God desires that we prosper and have good success (Joshua 1:8, 3 John 1:2). The problem arises when we need to let everyone know about the achievement (subtly and otherwise) at every opportunity or we get upset when the achievement is not acknowledged (God forbid that we have a doctorate but someone fails to call us “Dr.”). That’s when we know pride has taken over. The boastful face of pride is also evidenced among fellow Christians who always want you to know just how much God has used them to help others. An immediate warning sign that pride is in the house!

Are they Hebrews? So am I. Are they Israelites? So am I. Are they the seed of Abraham? So am I. Are they ministers of Christ? – I speak as a fool – I am more: in labors more abundant, in stripes above measure, in prisons more frequently, in deaths often………………………………..If I must boast, I will boast in the things which concern my infirmity. (2 Cor. 11:1-30)

For though I might desire to boast, I will not be a fool; for I will speak the truth. But I refrain, lest anyone should think of me above what he sees me to be or hears from me. (2 Cor. 12:6)

Thus says the Lord: “Let not the wise man glory in his wisdom, Let not the mighty man glory in his might, Nor let the rich man glory in his riches; But let him who glories glory in this, That he understands and knows Me, That I am the Lord, exercising lovingkindness, judgment, and righteousness in the earth, For in these I delight,” says the Lord. (Jer. 9:23-24)

3. Inability to rejoice in the success of others. When you are upset, disappointed or just feel grudgeful when someone else achieves what you have achieved or surpasses your achievement then pride is at work. You are smiling on the outside but inwardly you are seething because you are no longer alone on your pedestal of achievement. Your mantra is ‘the less the merrier’ rather than ‘the more the merrier’.  In this case, your achievement has become your identity and the thing that gives you value and pride of place. You see another’s achievement as devaluing you and robbing you of that which is rightfully yours. If you are not careful, this may even give place to bitterness and hate towards the individual who you have determined is guilty of such a personal indictment against your image.

Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;………………………… Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion. (Rom. 12:10, 15-16)

Next week (wow that’s 2019), the list continues.

Happy and Prosperous New Year to all from Transformation Today.


The Many Faces of Pride (Part 3)

Having looked at God’s heart concerning pride in Part 1 and scriptural insights about the nature of pride in Part 2, we now turn our attention to the consequences of pride.


1.God will not tolerate you

In other words, God will not allow the existence, occurrence, or practice of pride without interference.

Whoever secretly slanders his neighbour, him I will silence; The one who has a haughty look and a proud (arrogant) heart I will not tolerate. (Psa. 101:5 AMP)

2. Pride will bring punishment from God

We noted above that God will not tolerate pride without interference. He will interfere through punishment.

Everyone who is proud and arrogant in heart is disgusting and exceedingly offensive to the Lord; Be assured he will not go unpunished. (Prov. 16:5 AMP)

3. Pride brings destruction and embarrassment.

Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall. (Pro. 16:18)

The proud usually have lack of support when going through destruction because pride causes self-sufficiency and pushes people away because they feel unneeded and are usually made to feel inferior. So, when the proud person needs people they are nowhere to be found. The persons who do tend to hang around an arrogant person are usually able to do so because they also have an arrogant nature. God says that they too will be destroyed. God’s destruction will be so complete that nothing will be left.

“The arrogant (proud) one will stumble and fall With no one to raise him up; And I will set fire to his cities And it will devour all who are around him.” (Jer. 50:32)

4. God is against the proud and withholds His grace

The scriptures say that “If God is for us, who can be against us?” (Rom. 8:31). Have you ever thought about what happens if God is not for you? You are left without anyone to defend you against enemy attack because God Himself refuses to stand with you. That is a scary place to be.

“Behold, I am against you, O most haughty one!” says the Lord God of hosts; “For your day has come, The time that I will punish you. (Jer. 50:31, NKJV)

But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: “God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.” (Jas. 4:6)

…….Yes, all of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility, for “God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.” (1 Pet. 5:5b)

Not only does God resist the proud, He withholds His grace from them. ‘Grace’ does not only mean unmerited favour as most of us have been taught, it also means divine influence within us to overcome sin. Hence, the inability to withstand the enemy. Since the prideful person believes that he/she is their own god they believe they can do things in their own strength and do not avail themselves of the grace that has been made available through the death and resurrection of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. The inability of the proud to resist the attack of the enemy is brought out further in the following scripture.

So submit to [the authority of] God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him] and he will flee from you. (Jas.4:7 AMP)

It is obvious that a precondition for God’s grace to resist the devil is to submit yourself under God’s authority. A major challenge for the proud person is submitting to any authority.

5. Pride brings poverty, dishonour and death

By humility and the fear of the Lord Are riches and honor and life. (Prov 22:4 NKJV)

We established in Part 2 that humility is the opposite of pride. Hence, whatever benefits are gained by being humble the opposite must be true if pride is present instead. Instead of riches there will be poverty, instead of honour there will be dishonour, and instead of life there will be death.  We can argue further, that the Lord says we have prosperity when we obey his commandments (Joshua 1:8). We already know that pride is sin; hence, we cannot access the promises of God that pertain to the righteous, including prosperity.

6. Pride hinders our prayers

One of the chief reasons Satan does not want us delivered from pride is to hinder the effectiveness of our greatest weapon – PRAYER.

If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land. Now My eyes will be open and My ears attentive to prayer made in this place. (2 Chron. 7:14-15)

The Lord says ‘NOW My eyes will be open and My ears attentive to prayer’. Now when? When prayers are made with an attitude of humility. God’s first requirement is not for us to pray but for us to pray with a spirit of humility. Where there is a spirit of pride our prayers are dead in the water. They have no effect. We could quote every scripture, agree and bind left right and centre, but God’s eyes will be closed and He will not hear our prayers. We will simply be wasting our time and His.


See you next week for the next installment of “The Many Faces of Pride”.








The Many Faces of Pride (Part 2)

Last week, we looked at the importance of pride and, as promised, this week we will delve deeper into the nature of pride as outlined in the scriptures.

  1. Pride is a soul issue

For you have said in your heart: ‘I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God; I will also sit on the mount of the congregation On the farthest sides of the north; I will ascend above the heights of the clouds, I will be like the Most High.’  (Isa. 14:13-14, emphasis mine)

According to Strong’s Concordance, the word ‘heart’ in this context means ‘mind’. We see this same translation in other scriptures where pride is mentioned (Proverbs 16:5, 18:12, 21:4, 28:25; Psalms 101:5). Pride has to do with wrong thoughts and attitude. Other expressions used in the scriptures for pride are a high look, proud look, thinking of yourself more highly than you ought, and high minded. There are also instances where we see pride referred to as ‘a haughty spirit’ (Pro. 16:18). Here again, one of the the words for ‘spirit’ used in this context is ‘mind’. It is an important concept to grasp, particularly when we come to our discussion later in the series on how to overcome pride.

2. The opposite of pride is humility

Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall. Better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly, Than to divide the spoil with the proud. (Pro. 16:18-19)

Before destruction the heart of man is haughty, and before honour is humility. (Pro. 18:12)

The Cambridge English Dictionary defines humility as ‘the quality of not being proud because you are aware of your bad qualities.’ The Google Dictionary states it is ‘having a modest or low view of one’s importance’. In essence, it is a recognition that all of our righteousness is as filthy rags (Isa. 64:6), it is the righteousness of Jesus Christ in which we are able to stand before a Holy God (Isa. 61:10) not any righteousness in and of ourselves, so we have nothing of which to boast.

3. Pride is a sin

Pride and submission are mutually exclusive. How do we know this? Because pride and humility are opposites and it requires humility to submit. Submission means ‘the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person’ (Google dictionary). The Collins Dictionary gives the meaning of submission as ‘a state in which people can no longer do what they want to do because they have yielded control to someone else’.  In both definitions, we note that submission is an act of the will i.e. it is your decision whether to submit or not. We see throughout scripture that it is a requirement of God that we submit to Him, to others in authority, wives to husbands, and children to parents. It is not a suggestion it is an instruction. Anything that causes us to disobey God is sin.

Likewise you younger people, submit yourselves to your elders. Yes, all of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility, for “God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.” Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, (1 Peter 5:5-6)

 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. (Eph. 5:22; see also Col. 3:18)

Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. (Rom. 13:1)

4. Pride is part of our carnal nature

We will continually struggle with pride even when we are saved. Our spirits are regenerated through salvation but not our souls. This is why we have to work out our salvation with fear and trembling (Phil. 2:12b). In Romans 7, Paul shows us the struggle we go through daily as we seek to bring our souls into subjection to our spirits. This recognition should stir in us the need to be on constant guard against pride, particularly because God hates it so much.  It is so easy for material things, spiritual giftings, and achievements to make us prideful. Is this why some people wanting riches don’t get them because God is protecting them from themselves? We must always remember who is the source of all that we have and all that we are (2 Pet. 1:3; James 1:17).  Look how earnestly God had to warn the Israelites not to forget that God was the source of their new found wealth. It was not through their own power and might (Deut. 8:11-18). He also warns the rich in 1 Timothy 6:17 not to be high minded by trusting in their riches rather than in the living God who gave them the riches in the first place. He reminds us in Romans 12:3 that even our faith comes from Him. Why so many warnings? Because it is our human tendency to ascribe to ourselves the things that have been provided by God. Those things then become a curse to us. It happens so subtly.

Having gained a better understanding of the nature of pride, next week we will begin to look at the consequences of pride.